by Matthew Boulton: Student of human flourishing and proponent of objective optimism
Ideas, stories, experiences, and other content related to self-esteem, mental health, and happiness. To live and flourish, one must first be convinced that one is worthy of living, worthy of happiness. This is self-esteem, and it is a crucial value we all must earn.
In this early milestone 50th episode, Matthew reflects a bit by sharing a brief history as to why he proceeded to call the show “Mr. Bright Side,” knowing full well that it would always be confused with the 2004 mega-hit Killers song. He also shares a few personal stories over the years which have reflected back to him his natural tendency to optimism and enthusiasm, long before he ever developed his mature and formal philosophy. Listeners can take a lesson in self-awareness from these reminiscences.
At what age does one become a fully-formed individual? One modern-day comedian and one sage character from a short story published in 1939 have both offered a similar magic number. How is that two people from distinctly separate eras and experience have both identified the same thing?
How does charity fit into a life dedicated to gaining—not surrendering—values? If healthy human relationships are about win-wins, and charity is about gaining nothing for oneself, then is it good? And why do many of us feel so unfulfilled after engaging in sacrificial charity, if it’s the right thing to do?
If win-win relationships are possible, why should we want any part of a win-lose or lose-win? Yet lose-win is what conventional morality offers us explicitly if we take it seriously. And we ought to take it seriously. Our self-esteem and mental health depend on it.
It’s not about effort. It’s about mindset. We’re already working hard. Our ideas make sense, else we wouldn’t be doing them. What most of us need—and are missing—is a breakthrough in our thinking. Yet that breakthrough at first won’t make sense…
Want to know more? Listen to mindset coach Jarrod Haning, as he and Matthew discuss the following and much more in this interview full of powerful ideas leading toward that breakthrough shift:
-life coach vs. performance coach -attitude vs. mindset -music and your brain -why to-do lists slow you down (“You are the assistant.”) -How is stage fright related to business success? -personality tests vs. the MindScan (and how the former are dangerous) -how to uncover thinking blindspots -Operating in your “clumsy” vs. your “genius” -how to arrange your day around your “zone of genius” -mindset “pushups” -Thinking Patterns of Success -Jarrod’s unusual personal accomplishments
Does good etiquette lead to self-esteem? Or is etiquette just a social convention imposed upon us and a show put on for others?
Learn the “meaning behind the manners,” as Nita Patel distinguishes traditional and modern etiquette, defining the latter as “where outer actions and your inner awareness come together to achieve your best self.”